Since men do not discuss their feelings as easily as women, it is often difficult to determine just what they expect out of marriage. Many women throughout time have been devastated by a sudden divorce request from their husbands. They may have thought that he was perfectly happy but in truth, he was completely miserable. In order to keep your marriage healthy it is vitally important to understand what men really want in a wife and how to be the wife that they want and need. To understand the concept of what men really want you can look at some of the marriage priorities that men have given over the years to counselors and friends.
First and foremost, men want to be appreciated. They want to know that you appreciate the work that they do and everything that they contribute to your marriage and family. Simply put, men do not want to feel as if they are being taken advantage of. Just imagine how you would feel if you didn’t think anyone appreciated all the hard work you do. Men are no exception.
They also like to know that they are making you happy. They want their wives to laugh and smile frequently. They want you to laugh at their jokes and appreciate their stories. Of course you don’t want to plaster a fake Ms. America smile on your face at all times. You need to really keep a good sense of humor and appreciate the little ways that he tries to make you smile.
They want you to be concerned about them. They want to know that you are concerned about their general well-being. If your husband is not feeling well then he wants you to take care of him. If he is sad or depressed then he wants you to comfort him and be concerned about his feelings. Women are not the only ones with emotional issues. Men feel just as deeply as women do they just have more trouble expressing those feelings. If you see your husband feeling down or having an emotional crisis then be there for him. This is especially true in homes with children. It is often a woman’s prerogative to put her children’s needs before her husbands. Just know that sometimes he may need you more. He may need a bit more affection and caring to let him know that you are still concerned about him even though you may have other issues to deal with at the moment.
Finally - and this is the big one - he wants time alone with you. Although a healthy sex life is important to many men, being alone together does not necessarily mean for sex. It is important for you both to be sexually satisfied but it may be a bit more important to just spend alone time together. A date night once every week or so will do wonders for his self-esteem and yours as well. It will help you to create and maintain a stronger bond between you. Men want to know that their wives want to be with them. Honestly, men are like little boys sometimes who often feel self-conscious and frightened. It is important that you show your husband that you are still attracted to him, not just sexually but emotionally as well.
If you feel that your husband is not currently happy then discuss these issues with him. Ask him how he feels about your marriage and your personal relationship. Give him the opportunity to speak up about what he feels is missing in your marriage. Communication is the key to a successful marriage. Talk to him and ensure that you are both getting everything that you dreamed from your relationship.