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Marriage can be a very complicated adventure. One of the main reasons that women find marriage so frustrating at times is not knowing how their husbands truly feel about them. Of course you want to believe that your husband values you over everything else in his life, with the exception of your children. But how do you really know if your husband values you? There are actually many aspects involved in this question. You may be wondering if he truly values your opinion as an equal, or if he appreciates the things that you do for him and your family. Not knowing how your husband really feels can leave you more than frustrated and has been the basis for many marital problems over the years.

First you should understand that if you really do not know how your husband feels about you and your relationship then that could signal a gap in communication. Having good communication between the two of you is one of the most important concepts in a happy and successful marriage.

That being said let’s delve into learning how you can better understand your importance to your spouse. Remember the old saying that the best marriages begin with the best friendships? This concept still holds true. If your husband is your friend then you have the basis for a much stronger marriage. If your husband is your friend then you should have no problems communicating with him. If you are truly in doubt about how he feels then simply talk to him. Open up communication and let him know how you feel. Best friends are our most important assets in life. If your husband is also your best friend then he will talk to you, laugh with you, support you, encourage you and perhaps most important, respect you.

Of course you need to understand that respect is a two-way street. In order to get respect we must give it. If you do not respect your husband or value him then you simply can not expect him to give these things to you. If you notice that your husband is frequently putting your needs and feelings before yours, this is a good indication of respect. If you see him constantly doing small things that he knows will please you, this is another indication. These small things don’t necessarily have to have a grand meaning. They could be as simply as washing the dishes when he knows that you are not feeling well or bringing you a good morning cup of coffee. If you notice that he does these things on at least a semi-regular basis then you probably have nothing to worry about in the value department.

Another good indication of how much your husband values you is in the way that he handles your arguments. Many things can be said in the heat of an argument that we don’t really mean. The key is in how these things are said as well as how bad these things actually are. If you are truly respected by your husband then he will never use name-calling or demeaning comments even in the most intense argument. There will be no threats of divorce or telling you that you can leave if you do not agree with him. The goal of your argument should be to work things out and get on with your lives. If he truly respects you then he will know that an argument is just that - a disagreement and he will strive to do everything possible to find a solution to the argument that makes you both happy.

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written by Sasa, March 21, 2013
I can hardly count good things that he says to me but nothing comes to my mind, I have tried so hard to come up with every compliment or gratitude words ever said to me by him...but nothing.
He is foever blaming me calling me names,even telling me that he will bang my head against the wall till I die,lately he called me stupid wife infront of our kids.
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written by lily, February 01, 2012
My husband and I had plans for my birthday and now he has ditched me to go out with his friends!! We are married less than 6 months. I asked him to take the Monday off so we could enjoy the night better as it is a sunday but he told me no. Now i have discovered he can take it off for his mates??
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my husband doesn't really respect me
written by mimi, September 22, 2011
He often threatens me that he would divorce me if I don't change my attitude or if I get fat.He said demeaning things about me in our intense argument. He sees argument as a problem not a way to find solution to a problem.So what do I do ?I tried to be affectionate with him after our argument to let go of things but instead he pushed me away and said that "we are not okay"..I'm getting tired of him already .I tried everything I can to make our relationship happy but seems he's not doing his part.I feel like he is my enemy not a bestfriend or partners in life which he also feels about me.We are just not right for each other and we just both discover.
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wondering if he has lost his repect on me
written by ly.d, April 09, 2010
i dont want to judge my husband right away,yet calling me names,seeing this demeaning attitude and harsh words during an arguement,slamming the door of the car,and threatening about divorce,separation,or leave if you cant follow my rules.i would rather say are signs he doesnt respect me as his wife.of am i still denying even if its too obvious.how cani save our marriage i am so frustrated.please help
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written by Hima, December 15, 2009
sweety,
i think this is really a very peaceful and harmonious way to save any marriage
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written by swety, May 13, 2009
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